Dearest Cassie,

letters unsent to my lover's fiancée

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Sex is not something you do to someone. Sex is not a one way transitive verb, with a subject, you, and an object, the body you’re with.. it’s about being with and feeling with.. It’s a matter of paying attention- as if you are paying attention to someone who matters.

How Men Have Sex, Stoltenberg (via quote-book)

More on this later.  I didn’t do it to him, or him to me.  It was a moment that happened at our intersection.

And maybe I trusted him too much.  I know you did, for he to intersect with me at all.  If you knew, I wouldn’t feel compelled to write.

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“sometimes i buy heels just for the prospect of getting fucked wearing them.”

ispyalexa (via quickienewyork)

They are still in my closet.  I have less than 2 months to fix that.

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a quiet drink, that third night

Dearest C,

I now bring you to the crux of the moment where A and I transitioned from being potential fuck buddies to potential lovers.  We were going to meet for a drink, a quiet drink at a place he’d been before.  But clearly he had gotten it confused with somewhere else, and we found ourselves at a lovely but mostly deserted bar lounge.  We order our trademark drinks and drink them, talking, my foot so slightly on his calf. 

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a dinner, that second night

Dearest C,

I wrote about this second night the very day after.  I even took a photo of the bite mark on my neck, shining red as a reminder.  Red means stop, right?  I was never good at reading those signals, or listening to them.  I tried though. I took a photo as thanks, or proof, or a reminder.  But then my computer-camera connection demolished it along with many more useful images from other days in my life.  Irrelevant, but interesting. 

I’ve gotten terribly ahead of myself now, so let’s take a look at what I wrote then:

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a beginning, that first night

Dearest C,

You were once the other woman.  And now, as you have become fiancée to dear A, I have taken up that role.  You understand, I’m sure.

You don’t?  Of course, you could.  You certainly have the capacity.  Well, that is why I am writing.  Because he says that you would understand, and would not be able to handle that reality.  And I believe that, for now.  So I am writing for you rather than to you.  Formally.  For now.

I address this dearest because you truly are dearest to him, and I think that is important to note.  I need the reminder, and so do you. 

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